I am now on my second listen of Marie Forleo’s new book, Everything is Figureoutable (I love Audible), and while there were so many nuggets of wisdom in her book, there was a specific topic that really jumped out at me: hand-me-down beliefs.
In the chapter, “The Magic of Belief”, Marie discusses the concept of “hand-me-down beliefs”. Hand-me-down beliefs are ideas that are passed down, with the best of intentions. They can influence many different areas of your life, and you believe them, because they’re usually told to you by your loved ones. But, then you grow, change, and evolve, and you start to feel some dissonance surrounding these beliefs. You might realize that they’re not yours, and they actually don’t apply to you. As soon as I heard about “hand-me-down beliefs”, I immediately felt the connection to style rules.
Let’s list some of style/fashion rules, that I’m sure you’ve heard as a hand-me-down belief.
You probably heard even more rules that were specific to your body, culture, or family. While these hand-me-down beliefs can absolutely help give you a starting point to create your own style, it’s normal to reach a point, where they no longer apply.
Think about it, your life changes, your body changes, and your career may change too. You can’t expect those rules to apply consistently, when your life doesn’t remain consistent. Consider any other kind of hand-me-down, whether it’s a belief, clothing, or furniture – at some point, you may want to replace it with something you chose on your own.
I hear grown women tell me, “I can’t wear that, because they said (fill in hand-me-down belief here…)” If our supreme goddess, Lizzo has taught us anything, it is to love yourself in all your beauty, and show up as you.
As a personal stylist, do I give women rules to follow while we’re shopping? Yes. They’re not terribly strict rules, but I do provide guidance for them, so that they can have efficiency in their morning routine. The rules are also specific to them as an individual, which is exactly how you should take on style advice (or any advice in life). Take what applies to you and what feels good, and let the rest pass you by.
As soon as you start focusing on how you feel in an outfit, and you care less about what hypothetical judgements you will receive, the more confident you will be able to enter situations in your life.
I help dress your soul, and allow you to step into your higher self. You’ve already done most of the work – our time to work together occurs as one of the final steps before your transformation. Does that sound a little scary? It’s ok, you’ll always feel supported through the entire process. My goal is for you to love everything in your closet, and to feel incredible every time you get dressed.